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MeanderMe #10 - Reclaiming Selfishness

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Hello good soul,

This month, I have been feeling into the tension between taking time for myself and the pressure to do.

Our society suffers from a cognitive dissonance between caring for oneself and honouring one's responsibilities to the world.

The old worldview, still extant, is one of stiff upper lip, life as a journey of the lonely hero, suffering in quiet dignity. The parts of society still sympathetic to this view, and the parts of ourselves in which it still lives, are suspicious of 'self-care'. It sounds indulgent, weak, even dangerous.

There is, as such, a quiet form of protest in taking the time out to consider what we truly need, and giving it to ourselves. It is a protest centred around the reclamation of the self and selfishness, challenging the notion that selfishness is a bad thing and rather advocating that it is an essential part of not only being happy, but good. That they may in fact be the same thing.

This article is about how that little process of protest has been.

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